Several months ago someone sent in an email that started like this:
I just read your military blog piece, I have a couple of bosses and underlings who never respond to emails, totally drives me crazy haha.
Apparently they were referring to this post where we called out some people for a lack of manners. And apparently this opening was meant to show us that they had actually read our site and were thus in the “in” crowd, or something.
But “underlings”? Really?
What kind of jerk is this?
People, please. Even if you’re trying to be cute (haha), email is never the place to use such borderline-slang, particularly when you’re, uh, trying to get a complete stranger to do something for you, and thus – we presume? – trying to come across as professional, or at least, a decent human being.
We get it, everything is casual now, but, just, ugh.
Along those lines: We recently read an essay from a BSer who mentioned the “girls” that he works with. “Girls”? Yeah yeah we know, innocent mistake. But. Let’s enter the year 2014 shall we.
These incidents brought to mind this post we read about a female CEO who says she’s being propositioned by the programmers she’s trying to hire. Item #3 on her list of what it’s like to be a female CEO includes a screenshot of an email she received – heck, we’ll just include a snippet of the whole thing here:
It’s pretty damn lame that some jerk-o said that to her; totally inappropriate and inexcusable.
Except… just wondering if we have the whole story on that? If you’ll notice, the subject line of the email which presumably she sent to the programmer just says “Hey” – which indicates that they were already on a very casual basis. We get it, the Valley is casual, that’s its nature, everyone is young and hip and nobody has time for formalities. But if your relationship with someone is such that you’re sending emails of “Hey” – especially if this is an email from you as CEO of a company – well, it implies that these two were friendly. (We actually left a comment on the article saying exactly this but the CEO-author-person didn’t approve it for publication.)
Even if there is more context and they were friends – they couldn’t have been close, since he doesn’t know if she’s single or not – no matter what, none of that would excuse the dude’s response. Like, what was he thinking? Did he really expect to get a positive reaction from that?
Oh yeah, “haha”.